When to Turn to the School or Authorities for Help
Having your child try to handle bullying on his own is not always the best route to take. If your child is being constantly bullied without a reprieve, the situation may be escalating.
If there are threats of physical behavior or physical assault by the bully, you need to take action. When you’ve tried every avenue you can think of to stop your child from being bullied, it’s time to get the school involved.
First, if the bullying is from a classmate, you should tell the teacher what’s going on and see if he or she is able to put a stop to the bullying. If the issue is not with a classmate but a student in the school, have a meeting with the school counselor and the principal jointly. If that fails to bring results, contact the State Board of Education.
But before you take further steps, you’re going to make sure you have your documentation in place. You’ll want to establish a timeline of the bullying incidents. Have notes written out for what day the incidents took place and the location of the incidents.
Don’t just write down ‘at school’ but write down exactly where your child was – like in the boys’ restroom inside the North gym, for example. Also write down how often the bullying incidents occurred. Were they a weekly, daily or multiple times during the day event?
Make notes of who saw the bullying happen. If the bully had his or her friends also taking part in the bullying, write down who these kids were and what their actions were – even if it was just to serve as a bystander.
Also keep notes on who you spoke with and what actions they took to try and handle the matter. Your child’s school is legally obligated to educate your child in a way that does not jeopardize him mentally, emotionally or physically.
If you can show that the school has not taken the proper precautions and refuses to address the situation to stop the bullying, you have the right to contact the police and file a report yourself. If the bullying has reached the point where it’s become physical, it may fall under a stricter penalty under the laws of your state.
Bullying can take a toll on the victim as well as the victim’s family. As a parent, you have the right to request that your child be allowed to change classes to get away from the bullying.
You have the right to request the bully be removed from the school bus if the incidents took place there. You also have the right to request that your child change school districts.
If the school district has refused to take the bullying seriously, you have the right to and should hire an attorney. Your child has the right to an education free from bullying. You have the right to hire an attorney to seek compensation from the school for you and your child’s emotional suffering.