Making the Tough Decision to Be a Stay at Home Mom
Everything in life, every decision you make, everything you do is a trade off. You get something and you give something. This is just the way life is. The decision to become a stay at home mom is easy for some, and difficult for others.
Because the decision is such a personal one, it can be harder if your friends or family are pressuring you in a certain direction. If you are considering whether or not to quit work and be an at home mom, be sure to think your decision through carefully.
Take others opinions into consideration, but remember that you are the only person who can make the right decision for you and your kids. Staying at home with your children is an honorable and rewarding thing to do.
After all, parents, and moms (often more than dads) are the people that kids look to for everything in life – at least while they are young. They look to their parents for love, acceptance and comfort, and for care and guidance and nurturing.
This is very important, and if you are staying at home to raise your kids, you know how wonderful it is. There was a time when it was very unusual for a mother to work outside of the home.
It was expected and assumed that mom would be the caretaker of family and home while dad earned the money to take care of the family. Things have changed and now it’s not so odd for mom to head to work after her maternity leave is over, or when the little ones are a few years old.
There is nothing wrong with working outside of the home, and many women have fulfilling careers that they would miss if they became a stay at home mom. As a mother, a career woman is still given the opportunity to be that nurturing, loving, caring person that all children need and want in their lives.
Still, many feel the tug to leave their jobs for a new career as full-time mommy. So how do you make the tough decision to be a stay at home mom? What are the considerations? This decision is a very personal one.
You will make it with your husband, maybe considering the thoughts of trusted friends or family members. But you and your husband are the only people who fully understand what it will mean for your family if you stay at home so the end decision must be yours.
Often the most influential factor in deciding is financial stability. Will your family be able to pay bills, and keep things going on only one income? If you do go back to work, how much of your income will be eaten up in childcare costs?
Is it worth it? Will you lose important benefits such as health insurance if you leave your job? Other factors in the decision making process will be things such as whether or not you’ll be happy.
If you love the idea of being a full-time mommy, there’s a clue, but it you feel like you’ll be missing out by not working outside of the home, there’s another clue. Will you miss the socialization that comes with working, or will you be able to recreate that in your stay at home life with other moms? What if you worked part-time, or from home? There are most likely other questions that will come to mind.
Staying at home with your children is a wonderful thing to do, but the decision to do so must be one that you make yourself and that you feel good about, otherwise, you and your family will suffer. Take time to consider your options, discuss the subject at length with your husband or trusted friends and make the best decision you can.