As you and your wife fill with joy and expectation at the news of her pregnancy, congrats, Dad-to-Be! Your spouse wants you involved every step of the way and trusts you to be there for her. Show your love and care during this special time with some simple tips: keep encouraging her, remind her that she will be an amazing mother, and find ways to stay involved throughout the pregnancy journey.
FIRST TRIMESTER (Weeks One through Thirteen)
Talk to your Wife
Pregnancy is a huge life change, and it’s normal to feel lots of different emotions throughout the process. Talk to your partner every day about how she’s feeling, both physically and emotionally. Discuss your hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties about the pregnancy and about becoming parents together. This will help you both feel more connected and supported during this big transition.
Comfort the Mommy-to-Be
Dealing with morning sickness, nausea, and emotional turmoil caused by hormonal changes can be difficult for your wife. Find simple ways to comfort and relax her during this time. Give her plenty of hugs and kisses. Give her back and neck massages. Make her dinner. Listen attentively to her feelings.
Listen to your Baby’s Heartbeat
Being present for your wife’s prenatal appointments is a great way to bond with her and your baby. You can hear your baby’s heartbeat for the first time and enjoy this moment together.
See your Baby’s First “Photo”
Ten weeks into your pregnancy, your wife will have her first ultrasound. Attend the doctor’s appointment with her so you can enjoy seeing the first ultrasound image of your baby together.
SECOND TRIMESTER (Weeks Fourteen through Twenty-Six)
Go shopping for maternity clothes together.
Always remind your wife how beautiful she is, inside and out. Shopping for new maternity clothes together can be a fun bonding experience for the both of you!
Decide together if you’d like to learn the gender of your baby.
There are pros and cons to discovering your baby’s sex beforehand. On the one hand, you can decorate the nursery and buy gender-specific clothes and toys. On the other hand, waiting until the birth to find out if you have a boy or girl can add to the surprise and excitement. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what’s best for you and your family.
Talk to you baby every day.
As your baby grows, they will begin to distinguish different voices in the womb. Spending time with your wife “talking” to your baby every day will help them recognize your voices once they are born. You can also read children’s books, play music, and sing songs to your baby. Music has many therapeutic benefits and can assist in your baby’s cognitive development in the womb.
THIRD TRIMESTER (Weeks Twenty-Seven through Forty)
Make sure to give your wife regular massages, focusing on her back and legs. This will help her relax and feel appreciated.
It’s important for husbands to be supportive during their wife’s pregnancy, and one way to do this is by going to her doctor’s appointments with her. This way, you can learn about your baby’s development and ask any questions you may have together. Not to mention, it’s a great bonding experience for you both!
Create a birthing plan with your wife.
There are a lot of decisions to be made when it comes to labor and delivery. You and your wife will need to decide if she wants pain medication, and you’ll also need to choose the arrangements for the labor and delivery room. Talk to your doctor and your wife to make the best decisions for your situation.
Find a pediatrician with your partner.
Talk to several potential candidates. Sit down with your wife and decide on a pediatrician that both of you can trust and feel comfortable talking with.
Decide on childcare with your wife.
Planning for your partner’s maternity leave is important. If she plans on returning to work, you’ll need to decide together on your childcare options. You’ll need to figure out how long her leave is, and what kind of childcare will work best for your family.